Complexities in relationships

Do we over-complicate our relationships by adding or considering our fears and insecurities into an already complex dynamic? It seems that difficulties arise when one person responds/reacts/makes a statement without full knowledge or assuming the other person’s intentions. We add so much story to any interaction and this doesn’t seem wise. If we can approach a given interaction and remove the story we tell ourselves, while also removing the desire for a specific outcome, can we have more fruitful interactions and honest relationships?

See also Stable relationships allow emotions to surface without judgment and Emotions and thoughts do not define personality.